Is love an emotion or a choice? a discussion

[THE Kojima]

I found an advertisment about a debate or a discussion on the topic: " Is love an emotion or a choice?" I really found the topic interesting so I decided to take the oppurtunity of discussing it with the members of our forum and to give a chance to all of us to practice our English. I'll write my opinion later on because I don't want to infulence anybody by reading mine.

[Kubaj]

It's a door whenever you open it' it'll never be closed without a certain price

the choice lies within the act of opening the door

then.. it's all about emotions, dealing with it,.. forgetting about

love when you discover it's unreal

at this point getting rid of it, is painful

[المكاويه]

the choice lies within the act of opening the door

Excuse me
but i see no choice within the act of opening this door
believe me,,, its something that happens without giving u the chance to choose
i'v experienced that b4
and im almost doing so nowadays
its really not a choice
u would discover the matter
but after it has become tooooooooo late
so,,, i believe that love is an emotion not a choice at all
Well
as a matter of fact
the choice comes at the end
either u choose to end the misery u r living
or u choose to go on having such troubles and torments
and i advice that if u know that there would never be a happy end for this love,, i strongly recommened,, that u choose the first choice above
otrherwise u will continue having troubles to the end of ur life
and as they say in Arabic
" ألم ساعة و لا كل ساعة"
Wish u all good luck with those whom u love


Thank u brother for the sensitive topic
&
See later

[Lips Licker]

but i see no choice within the act of opening this door

believe me,,, its something that happens without giving u the chance to choose

its really not a choice


so,,, i believe that love is an emotion not a choice at all

I agree with almakawiah that love isn't a choise
unless it will be love for self-interest with selfishness



That's my opinion

[Kubaj]

Well, it's a discussion after all, no? and I think

it's a matter of choice..

as a wise man once said

Love is like war; begin when you like and leave off when you can

heheh

[NaughtY AngeL]

Salaam
It's a very interesting and arguable topic

From my point of view, I think that love starts as an emotion and then becomes a choice
Because you don't suddenly fall in love, you like the person first then you dicover that you love him, and it becomes a choice if you knew, for example, that it's impossible for you two to get married or something for any reason, so you have the choice to step away and forget all about it, or continue and go on risking your love and leaving it for the days

Naughty Angel

[Blueness]

Hmmmmmmm :scratchch they call it FALLING in love ….

Falling is not a rational act…and it’s certainly not a choice …

I believe love is beyond our control …just as gravity…
we get carried away by its force … causing us to fall…

This is the way I see it …

^^Thank you calgary_dude for such a LOVEly topic…

[NaughtY AngeL]

I think love is a choice unless you were TOO weak

[bm007]

Love isnt a choice nor anything else, its a destiny and fate, you can never chose whom you gona fall in love with ,not even guess, it could be the person next door, or may be that person on the otherside of the world.What about if you chose and not being chosen?love and not being loved?Although love knows no barriers,that does not always exist in real life,or at least not any more.Each day passes by, those romantic story we've read about become a history laying on our libraries shelves.My advice, dont you think about love alot, it will come to you evantually when the time is right and you can never miss it, as it sends a very clear signal to you letting you to know that love is knocking your door then its your choice you either accept or reject

Wish you all a lovely life

[konnan87]

...It's a choice

...You chose to get close to that person...You chose to love them

...But once you fall in love with them your emotions take control and to take actions based on a rational choice is very difficult

[THE Kojima]

I'm really sorry everybody for not replying sooner.. Today I'll discuss what everyone wrote about this topic.

It's a door whenever you open it' it'll never be closed without a certain price

I exactly know what you're talking about king_kubaj and i agree with you on this point.The certain prices you're talking about are very high and are usually painful.



So far King_Kubaj, NaughtY AngeL and Konnan87 believe its a choice whereas bm007, Blueleness, lips licker and
believe that its an emotionالمكاوية

[THE Kojima]

love when you discover it's unreal

Why do you assume that It is not real? in sha allah assume the best and wish that it will happen to you.

It's a very interesting and arguable topic

Thanks for the nice compliment ^_^

I think love is a choice unless you were TOO weak

although i respect what you said but I don't agree with you in this point. I'll talk about it later after I get all the opinions

Hmmmmmmm :scratchch they call it FALLING in love ….

exactly

Thank you calgary_dude for such a LOVEly topic…

Thank you for your wonderful reply

Love isnt a choice nor anything else, its a destiny and fate, you can never chose whom you gona fall in love with ,not even guess, it could be the person next door, or may be that person on the otherside of the world

That's a wonderful negotiation and I support what you said but that doesn't mean that the rest of the opinions are wrong .

...It's a choice

...You chose to get close to that person...You chose to love them

...But once you fall in love with them your emotions take control and to take actions based on a rational choice is very difficult

you believe its a mixture of both...interesting...

I'm sure you all are disappointed or angry at my replies cuz they are so vague and I don't know how to describe them...lol....

As I said earlier I don't want to say anything about my personal opinion now...I'm just waiting for everybody to write their answeres without any influence I may make directly or indirectly....

[**..AhMeD..**]

Hi all
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First i would like to thank u Calgary_dude for the topic




Love is not a choice at all

when it comes it comes just like this
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u don't notice that u r in love with that one from the first but when u start to feel jelious when u see him walking or even talking to someone

that time the idea comes to ur mind

am i in love..?!!


all the peolpe around u will notice that even befor u do ur self..

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once ago i have been told:

U don't love her cause she is beautiful
She is beautiful cause u love her..

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i am not tellin' a story here

i am tellin' u guys my experince

what i have said is sthg. i lived it an felt in every breath come in and out of my lungs


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and the time u get rid of it is painful
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i just do agree with this point
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sorry for talkig all this from ur time

urs all
AhMeD

[NaughtY AngeL]

Hi all, I respect all your point of views, and I'm sure everyone of you looks at it in a certain way for either a reason or an experience.
I do agree that love is an emotion that takes over your heart and controls your feelings for a certain extent, but when I get to think about it, I don't love some one just like that, I love a person for a reason, or many reasons. So why did my heart select him among all the others? there must'v been something that attracted me and made me fall in love! and this is the choice you make when you love someone, even if you'v chosen him but you don't even know that, you choose him because you liked certain things that you found very special! That's why once you get to know this person better and discover things that you don't like about him or shock you with his reactions, and disappoint you in some situations, , you can either choose to let go coz you think you deserve better, or continue for the sake of love, and this is where you find yourself too weak!

[樱花乱舞]

Just....

just follow ur feeling....